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13 Reasons Why-RATED Part III (Final Review)

Welcome to the final review of the show “13 Reasons Why”. I am going to go into details of the final episode and tell you if I feel you should watch the movie. I am going to do my best to keep the spoilers to a minmum, however I would skip past the review of the final episode if you don’t want spoilers on the ending and go straight to my actual review of the entire show. You can read Part I and Part II of the 13 Reasons Why reviews by clicking on the links.

Here goes the final episode review of 13 Reasons Why- Part III

Tape 7: Side A aka Mr. Porter

Tape 7 has to be the most heartbreaking episode. There was an adult that heard Hannah say she didn’t want to live anymore and he just played it off as if it didn’t mean anything. As an adult and a counselor he should have tried harder to help her and he just didn’t. He allowed her to walk away. Maybe he was just too busy with his wife and his new baby and 2 year old child to care about a teenager. It was his job to hurt her. But, school counselors don’t really care. It’s just a job to them.

The saddest part was the denial of the mother when she found her daughter in the tub. It broke my heart.

Review- Part III

Overall I felt that the show lacked the ability to keep my attention. Sometimes it did an amazing thing that grabbed my attention but it never kept my attention. There were several times that I found myself falling asleep watching it. Or if I paused it, I had a difficult time coming back to watch it. All of the reasons up to #12 weren’t subjectible to suicide for me. I know how it feels to have rumors spread about you and to feel lonley. I know how it is to lose your best friend and go throuh high school with no friends at all. I know how it is to be torn to pieces and have to pick yourself back up. #12 is what did it. I think that’s enough to break any young girl. She had no one to talk to and no where to run. She was isolated and hurt. She was suffocated in her own silence and the only way to be heard was to end it all. There are better shows out there that demonstrates the kind of pain and torture that a person who is suicidal goes through.

 

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13 Reasons Why- RATED, Part II

Thank you for joining me again for Part II of my personal review for 13 Reasons Why. If you hadn’t had a chance to read my previous review yet, please do. You can do so by clicking here. 

Part I was about the first six episodes. This will be about the next six episodes. The 13th and final episode will have the review of it’s own. If you have NOT watched the series please stop now because there are some spoilers.

On with the review of 13 Reasons Why- Part II (Episodes 7-12)

Tape 4: Side A aka Zach

Lonliness is such a difficult part of life. This episode finally hit home for me. When she said the word  lonely, it grabbed my attention. I’ve felt lonely most of my life. Not physically but emotionally. I grew up in a family where I was the outcast. Everyone else liked to fight and had friends. Me? I did my best to be good and stay out of trouble. When I did get into trouble I had everyone turn their backs on me. When I moved to a new town in the third grade the hardest time making friends. I wasn’t invited to birthday parties. I didn’t get to go hang out with friends. Not until the sixth grade. Even then it felt like everyone liked each other more than me. My first real best friend was in the 7th-8th grade. We did everything together. Then I lost her too. I was so alone. Walking the hallways with nobody. Going to class alone. Sitting alone at lunch. Being without friends can break you. Being without anyone to emotionally connect to, breaks you. I know what lonely is because even now I feel like I don’t have friends that care. I get these thoughts and feelings and I need to connect to someone on an emotional level and sometimes there’s nobody to connect with and it is so lonely.

I cried during this episode. I cried writing this post. I felt lonely last week. Like I was in my head screaming so loud and nobody could hear me. I have people that want to hear the latest life news but not one of them really cares about me. Or that’s how I really feel. My kids love me, yes, but this is a different kind of feeling.

Tape 4: Side B aka Ryan

Hannah wanted nothing more than to be heard by people that weren’t at school. She wanted to be able to have others feel her pain. She just didn’t want to deal with those that wouldn’t understand it or her words. Ryan was just another one of the 13 people that betrayed her, if it is 13 people who betrayed her.

Tape 5: Side A aka The Party

Rape should always be taken seriously and people should not stand by if they are witnessing something so horrific. Hannah stood by and I can see how knowing she could have stopped something from happening could damage her.

Tape 5: Side B aka Sheri

Knowing that an accident could have been prevented if you just got there in time can add on the guilt. Sheri could have been able to prevent the guilt being added onto Hannah if she would have just stopped and called the stop sign in. The wreck wouldn’t have happened.

Tape 6: Side A aka Clay

The tape that we all waited to hear. How could this person be on the tapes? What role did he play in Hannah’s suicide? To me he didn’t. He didn’t see her cry for help. That’s not really something we can blame on him. Like she said he doesn’t deserve to be on the tapes.

Hannah’s mother found the draft of who the tapes will go to. I’m interested in seeing where it’ll take us in the next episode. Which led to Clay’s mother needing to prepare him for the deposition.

I believe the hardest part was when Jessica found out she was raped. It can definately destroy her life and I understand why she’s behaving strange.

Tape 6: Side B aka Bryce

Rape can break a soul to pieces. It can tear you a part and leave you with a huge feeling of emptiness as deep as an abyss and you just feel like there’s no way out. Up until this episode I felt like that maybe it was every thing put together. That maybe all these things added up could break a person. But, most girls do go through stuff like this in high school.

Rape makes you feel like your life is no longer worth living. Hannah was already so broken and so upset that she found what hurt her so severely that she couldn’t forget it.

Review- Part II

If you can make it through the first six episodes, the next six episodes can make it well worth it. I think that it needs to come directly from someone that can relate to Hannah’s pain. There’s not always something we can relate to. Maybe you even relate to the people that hurt Hannah. Please stay on the look out for Part III of my 13 Reasons Why review. It will bring my conclusion and let you know how I feel about the ending.

Until then!

-QueenofhartsXoXo

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13 Reasons Why- RATED Part I

I’m going, to be very honest here, I wasn’t going to watch this show when I first heard about it. I mean everyone was talking about it, people at work, my husband’s friends on his XBox, my friends and I finally gave in. I’m not even fully through the entire series yet and I wanted to start this post when the thoughts were fresh in my mind. If you haven’t watched it yet and don’t like spoilers please come back after you’ve watched it.

As a woman and a girl that has gone through bullying and a mother of a son who has been bullied before, I see what this girl has gone through from both views. I think we are all guilty of bullying and I think we all have been bullied in some way. When I was in 7th grade I didn’t even know I dressed differently until it was pointed out by a boy that I had a crush on. He said he wouldn’t go out with me because I had funny clothes. There were times that people made fun of the way I talked so I quit talking. There were times that people made me feel less than a human being and I didn’t want to be human anymore. As a mother, my son was being bullied and in this day and age, it’s hard for kids to be able to entrust in their parents about what is going on at school. I let my kids know every single day that if something is going on, they will always have me. I have had to tell a few 8-year-olds just how I felt because they were hitting my son with a backpack and calling him names.

On with the show….Here’s my review of 13 Reasons Why…Part I (Episodes 1-6)

Tape 1; Side A aka Justin’s Tape

What Justin did can really hurt a girls reputation. I can understand just by how he treated her and by sending that photo to friends, exactly why Hannah felt less than human. When people paint a picture of you and make you into something that you’re not, but you don’t have a chance to stand up and say you aren’t that type of person or that you didn’t do something it can really hurt you. It can make a person not to want to wake up in the morning, not to go to school, not to be in this world.

Tape 1; Side B aka Jessica

Having friends can be a very important part of our lives as young adults fighting our way through high school. Sometimes all we have is just one friend. When life takes a turn and you lose your best friend to a boy or other friends it can be a devastating experience. This person that seemed like they were attached to your hip is no longer there. They didn’t just fade away, they just ripped themselves away from you and went on with their life as if you never existed. You lost a person and you are grieving.

What’s more important here is that Jessica didn’t even care she hurt her friend. She let a stupid list and sex with a boy come between her and one of her best friends. She said a hurtful thing and used Hannah’s weakest moment against her. That’s just how the world works, we are happy to defend our friends but once we’re no longer friends we take that information and go to war with it. I have always refused to do this to one of my friends because what they confide in me during our friendship will always be kept between us.

Tape 2: Side A aka Alex

When I was in high school there was a notebook that went between me and my friends. It was so that we could all write into it to each other. Eventually, it got confiscated because of the things girls were discussing. I’m not even sure what was so bad about it.

I can see how Alex making the list and acting as if he had sex with Hannah could just add more fuel to the fire. Even more important is the fact that Alex was friends with Hannah and did this to her.

Tape 2: Side B aka Tyler

It wasn’t until this episode that I caught the feels. When the boys were toilet papering the Bakers house and Clay stopped them and the mother, her face…I’m an empath so I could feel exactly how she felt when Clay said he was a friend of Hannah’s. She felt like she could relive her daughter through her friends and part of her daughter would be back.

I think that this was a tragic event and that it lost Hannah another friend. Making her feel even more alone. Again, nobody knew that was her and Courtney in the photo and it could have been easily played off. To feel unsafe in the world is even worse than feeling bullied. The fear and anxiety of someone being there that will harm you literally suffocates you.

This episode ended great. Instead of throwing the rock at the window, he got a naked photo taken. Great job, Clay!

Tape 3: Side A aka Courtney

Courtney not wanting to be friends because of the photo may have been the turning point. She seems to be a good person that has all her ducks in a row and she doesn’t want that messed up or people to judge her for being different. Right when Hannah had nobody, Courtney made a choice to be there and to kiss Hannah. She was the one who told her to do it but then she turned around and put blame on Hannah. Courtney started her own rumors about Hannah and made it worse. Just piling the lies and bullying on more and more.

Victim blaming was a very strong part of this episode. Tyler had a picture going around of his butt. Come on,  it was his butt. The counselor made a remark of how he should be able to prevent stuff like this. Do people really get undressed with the blinds open though?

In the end of the episode Clay’s mom informs him she will be representing the school and be defending them. From my own personal experiences, the school doesn’t care about bullying. They turn a blind eye most of the time. That’s exactly what was done in this instance. The school should settle.

Tape 3: Side B aka Marcus

The beginning of the episode says it all about our society. People lining up to video a fight and someone getting hurt instead of taking a moment to step in and stop what was going on. I think the access to so many devices enhances the chances of bullying and parents not knowing. As a parent I believe our kids need their privacy and that they should be able to come to you with anything. Yet, my oldest son is only 8.

I felt like Marcus definately added fuel to the fire by trying to use her and doing it in front of his friends. At this point, Hannah felt like she was pulling hateful people toward her.

Review-Part I

I wanted to stop watching the show after the first five minutes. I continued to watch it thinking that it would get much better. I’m an empath and I can usually pick up on emotions but I didn’t feel any emotions in this show until episode 4 and the mother was crying, that felt real. After this episode, there wasn’t really a lack of emotions still. I could tell Clay was supposed to have some type of meaningful feelings toward Hannah but I feel like it wasn’t played appropriately. We will see how the next seven episodes go.

Please join me in my next blog entry. Until then!!

-Queenofhartsxoxo

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Social Media

Social Media has wonderful aspects and great opportunities. For me though, I have been out of the social media spotlight for a few years. That means I’m a bit behind in my abilities to get followers for my blog and even pages. I’m not going to let that stop me, though.

View Points

Social Media can be a terrific way to meet new friends and to bond with people. I didn’t even know there were so many moms like me. Those that had the same viewpoints as well as loved the natural world we live in. Facebook can be used for so much more than gossip…who knew??

My Social Media Sites

If you look to the right of this blog post —-> you will see the links to my sites…bloggers alike please follow me on my Facebook and I will promise to follow back and affiliate you!

-Queenofhartsxoxo

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A Better Me

A Better Me (1)

I have made a decision to go through past blog posts and delete most of them. When I started my blog I had no idea where it may take me in my life and I really didn’t know what my intentions were with my writing. Now that I do know what topics I’d like to write about I am starting fresh, nearly.

When you look back on my past blog posts you will see my birthing stories and motherly posts or my personal thoughts on a subject. Believe me, with six kids, there’s a lot I could write about. I want to be able to share my thoughts and feelings. I want to take you along for the ride of my life.

My Journey

I want to be able to empower all women. I hate that we live in a society where we down each other for sexual preferences, the color of our skin, relationship status, etc. I want to help those mothers who are fresh and new to see the excitement of motherhood. I want to bring each and every one of you along this huge journey.

Better Me

I want to better myself. I want to be a better person, mother, friend, family member, wife and more. I want to show you my world and you show me yours. Here I am, uncensored and I want you to join me in the fun.

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I Failed Whole30

Failure- such a strong word. Many people fail at things. I am admitting to failing at Whole30. It’s not that I don’t want to eat healthily, it’s that I am a sugar addict. My head started hurting and I couldn’t take it anymore, so on day 15 ….I ate a donut.

I know that I could probably make a million excuses of why I decided to eat that donut, but I won’t. I opened the pack for my son and well, I left the urge to get the best of me. I have learned so much about food and the things we put into our bodies, so I don’t want to give up on this journey of eating right, but the rules of  Whole30 are not something I want to deal with.

I was also doing it for all the wrong reasons. One being to lose weight. If you do whole30 it’s not to lose weight, it’s to give up the foods you crave and to cure an addiction of sugar in 30 days… and then you have the choice of going right back to those bad habits. Most people do.

I did lose 15 pounds so it very much does work. It’s just not for me. I am going to try paleo, that way I can have banana pancakes or almond flour ones. I can eat my breakfast pudding, etc.

I am taking my entire family Paleo starting the 1st of April! I will update you on our journey.

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Whole30- Day 3 (The Hangover)

The great thing about Whole30 is that they have a great support team to help you along the way and there are some absolutely amazing people out there that have been through this entire thing before. They can tell you exactly how you will be feeling the next few days and this site: The Whole30 Timeline will provide some amazing tips and encouragement on how to handle your mood swings and cravings. On Day 3, I hit the Hangover stage, it actually started on Day 2 at the end of the day. My head hurt so bad this day. I just really missed my Dr. Pepper, I woke up missing my Dr. Pepper, it’s all I thought about for hours, I finally went to Sonic and bought me an Iced tea, unsweet and that made the cravings a little less. I almost wanted to give up and just call it quits. But, as I look at my clothes that don’t fit and how unhappy I am with my body, I stuck through it. Reminding myself, Dr Pepper will be here in 27 days.